When I was little, I loved these dishes. They were the every day dishes my maternal grandparents used. I always hoped that one day I would inherit them and that long held wish has come true. My aunt and uncle have been using the dishes for the last several years and now that they are in the process of retiring and moving, we are the lucky recipients of the dishes I have so long coveted.
I laid out the dishes on the dining room table. The dishes survived the trip with only one minor chip on the gravy boat. I am pleased as punch. I have almost all of the old dinnerware packed away ready for storage. Our cupboards are now filled with dishes I have eaten off of all of my life. Luckily, despite who the dishes originally belonged to, most of those memories are happy ones. Family gatherings for holidays and weekends spent hanging out in San Diego going to the San Diego Zoo.
I think it is important to hang on to traditions and memories even if there are unpleasant people associated with the memories. My grandmother was an unhappy and miserable human being whose sole delight in life was to make those around her unhappy and miserable too. I don’t think I have a truly happy memory of her when she was physically present. From a distance she wasn’t so bad, but as soon as she got in the room with family she was wretched. Somehow my mum and my aunt escaped acquiring on her miserable life outlook.
The family you are born into isn’t always perfect or what you wished life had handed you. But you learn to make the best of the hand life deals you and my mum and aunt are living embodiments of that philosophy. They are funny, loving, and caring women. They haven’t always been close but now they are inseparable. I’m thrilled that once my aunt and uncle retire and live here that the two of them will be within a reasonable walking distance of one another.
Family memories and traditions are what make each of us unique. No two family members remember an event exactly the same and it’s sharing those combined memories over family meals that weaves together traditions and memories into strong, unbreakable bonds. I am blessed with a husband whom I love, parents who love each other and me, and extended family of funny, loving, amazing people without whom my life would be incomplete.