So, here’s a thought what do you do ,or how do you react, when your spouse says or does something to win an argument that is way below the belt to win the argument? We were having a discussion earlier this week and DH said something so low I called him on it immediately. He ignored me and finished his point and walked back to his office. I, on the other hand, was left silently fuming and crying because his words were designed to hurt and boy howdy did they.
It took him almost an hour to come out and apologize. He still refuses to acknowledge that he said it intentionally and to win the argument. I can handle that, we all say things to win arguments sometimes without thinking but I still think he said it intentionally.
I have chosen to forgive him and let the hurt go. It was personal and painful, but words spoken out of passion once don’t outweigh all of the benefits and challenges of married life. Don’t get me wrong, if there is a sustained atmosphere of emotional harm and abusive language then there isn’t an excuse for staying in such a relationship. I am in no way in such a relationship. DH does everything possible to make and keep me happy and fulfilled.
So, I’ve accepted his apology and let the hurt go. He loves me, I love him, and our marriage is worth far more to me than powerful hurt feelings. Don’t get me wrong, marriage isn’t always a piece of cake but it is the best cup of tea around with the right person.