>I spent most of the week doing something I thought I wouldn’t do, but I gave in because it will make my life easier in the coming weeks and months, I made a list of wish list books at the library website. The list was huge, much larger than I thought it would end up being to be honest. When all was said and done, the list was over 700 books and did not include books that are on my Audible wishlist already. I started out making one great list but ended up having to split the list into several sublists since there is on export capability for the library list which would allow me to sort the list.
I picked up my first armload of books yesterday and surprisingly for me, the number of fiction and non-fiction books was evenly balanced. The first book up is The Proper Care of Feeding of Husbands by Dr. Laura Schlessinger. When I was younger and single, I used to listen to Dr. Laura with my mum and I thought the woman had no clue about what she was talking about. With age comes wisdom and experience and I know now that Dr. Laura is much smarter and much wiser than I ever gave her credit for when I was younger. The difference … life was taught me that the “super woman” theory doesn’t exist and isn’t attainable if you want to be happy!
Several months ago, DH and I each read the Proper Care and Feeding of a Marriage by Dr. Laura Schlessinger. The insights in the book made both of us realize that no matter how strong our marriage is, failure to make the marriage a priority by both of us would be a tragic mistake. I now make sure I thank my husband for working so hard for us which allows me to stay home. I never thought that the simple act of thanking him for working so hard would be so appreciated by DH. To be honest, the stories from her listeners and readers brought me to tears on more than one occasion.
The reason so many women dislike Dr. Laura and her advice is simple, she’s honest and she pulls no punches when it comes to the priorities of the modern woman. It isn’t possible to have a demanding career, a happy marriage, kids, and friends without making sacrifices that make someone suffer. We have far too many kids being raised by strangers and far too many kids who are over scheduled by their parents. Dr. Laura tells these women, that having it all isn’t possible if you want to be truly happy. Who gets married to the man they love only to making him a non-priority? Who is blessed with children and then lets strangers raise them because the demands of the office are more important than the children?
I used to think that I had to have it all in order to be happy, a husband, children, and a career. I believed the hype put out by the media and feminists for decades … it is possible to have everything without sacrificing anything. Deep down, I knew I wanted to be married to my best friend and to raise our children by staying home. I was mocked by friends at university and work for this belief. It took me a long time to realize that there was little to no respect left for the traditional housewife and/or stay-at-home mom in America. The end result? I never found Mr. Right in my twenties and well into my thirties.
I finally met and married Mr. Right in my mid-thirties. The amazing thing he loves me as much as I love him. I am blessed with a husband who understands that money and possessions do not make for a happy and fulfilled life if you have no one to share the things with. Yes, we had more disposable income when I was working and we definitely had more things. What we didn’t have was time spent with each other and a shared life. We each worked during the week, exhausted and snappy by the end of each day. Weekends were spent on chores and errands, again falling into bed exhausted. We spent time together getting things accomplished, but we never had time for intimate connections or the little things that make a marriage strong for decades to come.
Now, we don’t spend all of our time rushing to complete chores and errands. We actually have time to just be with one and another. Dinners are no longer whatever comes pre-packaged out of the freezer and housework isn’t accomplished between commercial breaks. The house doesn’t suffer and the marriage doesn’t suffer. I can honestly say my DH is my best friend and that I am lucky. I know he loves me no matter what and he will always make me and our marriage a priority.